Wednesday, December 01, 2004
"The sun is shinin', c'mon get happy..."
There was an article on MSN today that caught my attention. The accompanying picture was of a darling little girl on the cover of Newsweek, so I had to read it. The article was talking about the new trend for divorced parents. My parents aren't divorced, but I kept reading anyway. It seems exes often meet at the same house, bring their new partners, and celebrate Christmas (or whatever) together with their kids. I don't know why that struck me, but it did. I have always known divorced couples who do this, but according to the article, it is becoming much more prevalent. More and more families are finding it possible to put aside their differences and focus on a stable, healthy environment for their kids. If divorce has to occur, I think it's good that there can be acceptance of new lives and cooperation on both sides. Too many times leftover animosity creates a tense family environment, which isn't good (even if it is justified). I'm glad people are finally realizing what is important.
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Very true, and very interesting- I'm glad to see that this is becoming a "trend." That's the way our family has always operated, and man oh man, am I thankful for that! It doesn't even strike me as odd when I sit down to a birthday dinner with my mother, father, stepmother, stepfather, and half-sisters- although rather "non-traditional," we are a family. I think it's hard for people to understand how this can be. People will often ask my step-mom, "How do you do it?" meaning, "How can you be friends with your husband's ex-wife?!" She will willingly admit that it isn't easy- I assure you, the mothers and fathers who choose to operate their families in this manner are not doing it because they desire to spend time and be best friends with their ex-spouse; they do it because it is in the best interest of their children. These incredible parents realize that while they chose poorly in marriage and chose to leave that marriage, they are also parents and can never abandon that position- they love their kids enough to calmly put aside their differences simply because they want to see their children grow up in a loving home, even if it is a "broken" household. I can confidently say that when parents do not do this, they create a whole other world of heartache for their children, only compounding on the pain caused by a divorce. Divorce does not have to be the way it is commonly viewed with tension and animosity (that's just immature and selfish). If parents truly love their children and put their well-being above their own, they will set aside their differences and learn to be civil, respectful people- their children will be eternally grateful for it. Ok, sorry, just had to add my two cents :)
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